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Surely I Can't Be the Only One When Mental Illness Becomes More Than a Family Can Carry There is something I have been carrying around in my mind for a long time. And lately, I keep coming back to the same question: Surely I can't be the only one. Surely my family isn't the only family that has reached that terrifying place where you love someone deeply, would do almost anything for them, and yet finally have to admit: We cannot provide the level of care this person needs. That sentence is incredibly difficult to say. Because it can sound like giving up. It can sound like abandonment. It can sound like saying, “You're too much for us.” But that isn't what we're saying. What we're really saying is: “We love you. That's why we're asking for help.” I'm Not Writing This From the Outside Looking In I'm not writing this as someone looking at mental illness from the outside. I know what it is like when your own mind doesn't alwa...

The War Beneath the Grave: When Grief Becomes a Battlefield of the Mind “The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.” — Psalm 34:18  There are battles that nobody sees. No blood on the floor. No soldiers marching through the streets. No sound of guns. Just a mind sitting quietly in the dark, fighting itself. Grief can become that kind of war. When someone we love dies, the world tells us that we must eventually move on . But what does that mean when the person is still alive inside your memories? How do you leave someone behind when your mind keeps bringing them back? The grave says they are gone. Memory says they are still here. And somewhere between those two realities, the mind begins to fracture under the weight of what the heart cannot reconcile. I loved them—so I don't want to let go. I lost them—so I cannot hold on. And sometimes I wonder which hurts more. When the Mind Becomes the Battlefield There are moments when my o...

The Thought Behind the Verse “For who hath known the mind of the Lord, that he may instruct him? But we have the mind of Christ.” — 1 Corinthians 2:16 There are verses in the Bible that I read differently than other people do. Not because I believe I have discovered some secret revelation that nobody else can see, but because my mind does not always travel the same road theirs does. A thought can begin with one word in a verse, split into another thought, collide with something I have experienced, and suddenly I am standing somewhere completely different from where the sentence seemed to begin. And sometimes, strangely enough, that is where I notice something. Take this verse: “But we have the mind of Christ.” Most people read that as a beautiful statement about having Christlike thoughts. I wonder if there is something deeper hiding in the wording. Paul did not say we understand the mind of Christ. He said we have the mind of Christ. There is a difference. Maybe the Christian life i...

  There are thoughts that knock politely. This was not one of them. It came like something scratching from inside the walls—quiet at first, then persistent, until I could no longer pretend I had not heard it. My mind has always been an odd place to live. Schizophrenia has made some corridors darker than others, and there are days when even my own thoughts seem like strangers wandering through rooms I thought I knew. Yet sometimes, in that strange wilderness, a question appears that refuses to be dismissed. I was thinking about sinners. Not us. Them. That is how we usually think of it, isn't it? The sinner is always somewhere else. He is the addict. The prisoner. The man whose life has become a ruin. The woman whose past we whisper about. The one we hope Christ will save—provided their salvation does not require them to sit too close to us. And then the thought turned its pale face toward me: What if the worst sinner who ever lived is not someone history remembers, but the person st...

When the Light Reveals the Darkness What if God sometimes lets us see how dark the darkness is—not to make us fear it, but so that when He reveals the Light, we finally understand what we were blind to? I did not begin with the Cross. I began with a question about darkness. Not the darkness that falls when the sun disappears. Not the darkness of a room with the lights turned off. Something deeper. The kind of darkness a person can live inside without realizing he is there. Perhaps that is the most frightening thing about darkness: it does not always feel dark when you have lived in it long enough. We learn its shape. We adjust our eyes. We become comfortable with what we can no longer see. And eventually, we stop asking whether we are blind. We simply call what we see normal . Then I began to wonder: What happens when Light finally enters that darkness? Perhaps we expect the Light to make everything beautiful immediately. But what if it does the opposite first? What if the first thin...

  The Road Had Always Been There There are moments in life when the road ahead seems to vanish. Not because the road has ended. Not because there was never a way forward. But because the darkness has become so familiar that we begin to believe it is all there is. We stand in the middle of the unknown, looking into the distance, searching for something that will tell us where to place the next step. We ask questions that have no easy answers. We wrestle with silence. We wonder if we have wandered too far, if we have gone too deep, if perhaps the path we were meant to walk disappeared somewhere behind us. And in those moments, the hardest thing to accept is that sometimes the problem is not the absence of a path. Sometimes the problem is our ability to see it. The traveler in the night does not always need a new road. Sometimes he needs new eyes. There is something mysterious about the way God works. He does not always move the mountains we fear. He does not always remov...